What should you not do after a fight?

Don't have an all-or-nothing mentality. ... Don't give them the cold shoulder. ... Don't keep their words in your arsenal. ... Don't just say, "I'm sorry" if they're still hurt. ... Don't make excuses for why you fought. ... Don't walk away if they re-approach the argument. ... Don't keep getting in jabs. More items... •

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It's totally normal — and even healthy — for couples to argue. After all, you're two separate people which means you're going to have different opinions sometimes. You might already know of some go-to techniques for how to fight "fair," like using statements starting with "I" and avoiding any and all name-calling. But these methods only go so far and oftentimes it can be murky waters when determining what to do after a fight with your partner. What you might not realize is that how you act after a fight can be just as important to the current state of your relationship as what you say in the heat of the moment. That said, here are 12 responses to avoid after an argument, whether you're totally over it or still working on that whole forgive-and-forget thing. This content is imported from poll. You may be able to find the same content in another format, or you may be able to find more information, at their web site.

1.Don't disrespect your partner's need for space.

"In a fight, when one partner is overwhelmed, they may not be able to process their thoughts," Dr. Megan Flemming, clinical psychologist and certified sex therapist, tells Woman's Day. "Which is why it's important to respect when someone says 'I need a break.'" It can be natural to feel anxious if your partner needs some time to cool off and collect their thoughts — if this happens, take a few deep breaths and think about how'd you want to be treated if the roles were reversed. "Understand that it's not personal," says Dr. Flemming.

2. Don't have an all-or-nothing mentality.

After a heated argument with your partner, try to keep an open mind. In the midst of a fight, it can be easy to slip into black-or-white thinking. Dr. Flemming says using terms like "you always" or "you never" won't solve an argument, so it's important to take a step back once things have cooled off to consider your partner's point of view.

3. Don't give them the cold shoulder.

If you need some space after a fight, that's completely fine, as long as you tell them. "One of the biggest mistakes people make after an argument is stonewalling," Rachel A. Sussman, a licensed psychotherapist and relationship expert in New York City, tells Woman's Day. If you brush your partner off or ignore them, they may think you're punishing them, which might make them hold back on telling you how they feel in the future. Instead, say, "My emotions don't recede as quickly as yours, but give me 24 hours and I'm sure things will be fine. If not, we can discuss more."

4. Don't keep their words in your arsenal.

You know the saying, "What happens in Vegas stays in Vegas?" Whatever your partner says during a fight should stay there. "List-makers never tell their partners what bothers them in the moment," Michelle Golland, PsyD, a clinical psychologist in Los Angeles, tells Woman's Day. So if they say something during the fight that bugs you, tell them their words are frustrating you. If their fighting words annoy you the next day, give yourself some breathing room instead of approaching them again so soon. Bringing up an argument too often can lead to talking in circles, not a resolution.

5. Don't just say, "I'm sorry" if they're still hurt.

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That says, "I'm sick of this. Leave me alone. I want to do something else," Laurie Puhn, a couples mediator and author of , tells Woman's Day. "What you want to say is, 'I'm sorry for…' and explain what you're talking about. The second part of the apology is, 'In the future, I will…' and fill in the blank with how you won't make the mistake again."

6. Don't make excuses for why you fought.

There are a million things on which you could blame an argument: a bad day at work, a headache, a restless night. In fact, a University of California Berkeley study found that couples who don't get enough sleep are more likely to fight. Still, passing the blame isn't fair to your or your partner. "Fights are about information," Dr. Golland says. "If you're angry, sad or hurt, that's information your husband needs to know." The next time you have a bad day at work, send a warning text before you get home, Dr. Golland suggests. That way, they know that you may be more irritable.

7. Don't walk away if they re-approach the argument.

If it's been only a few minutes since your fight, tell your SO you're open to any questions or hearing about lingering frustrations after they've had time to think. If they want to revisit the issue after a few days, though, don't turn your back on them. "Non-verbal communication is as loud as yelling," says Dr. Golland. If you find yourself walking away, apologize, return and hear them out. "Reflect back what he's telling you: 'So you're saying [fill in the blank]. Correct?' Check in to make sure you're getting it right."

8. Don't keep getting in jabs.

Still reeling from a fight? That doesn't give you the right to mutter not-so-sweet nothings. "Never call a person a name. It's hard to recover from that," Sussman says. So if you fought about your vacation budget, don't say they're cheap when you're looking at your friend's photos from her trip to Greece. Name-calling only makes them "come back swinging with insults," says Sussman. Instead, ask them to talk through what's still bothering you once you've calmed down. Say something like, "I know you're concerned we don't have the money, but here's a budget I made," Sussman suggests.

9. Don't have make-up sex if you're not feeling it.

You both said "I'm sorry" and meant it — but now they're trying to get some, and all you can think is, Seriously? "It's not that they don't realize you had a fight," says Sussman. "Many men want to have sex to feel close." If going at it is the last thing on your mind, let them down gently. "Say, 'Thank you for feeling like you want to be close to me, but I'm not in the mood right now," she suggests. "Hug him, and tell him that maybe you can have sex tomorrow." Don't just roll over and refuse them without an explanation. "That will hurt his feelings," Sussman says. "Never call a person a name. It’s hard to recover from that," says licensed psychotherapist and relationship expert Rachel A. Sussman. Marko Geber // Getty Images

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10. Don't focus on what caused the fight.

Your energy is better spent on the solutions for the problem. Puhn uses this example: Say your spouse forgot to bring cash to a cash-only event. You had a tiff about it, but then you went to an ATM and the issue was resolved. Enjoy the night instead of replaying your partner's screw-up in your head. "The difference between a bad fight and a good fight is whether or not you reached a solution," says Puhn. On the other hand, if their forgetfulness is consistent, try saying, "I'm noticing that you aren't carrying cash much these days. What's going on there?" It's a less judgmental way to get at the issue than, "Ugh! Not again!"

11. Don't say, "I didn't mean it."

"Saying this is like trying to use an eraser on permanent marker," says Puhn. "It inflames the situation because your [partner] will say: 'Yes you did!'" Going back and forth on what you said or didn't say, meant or didn't mean, keeps you focused on the past instead of working toward a solution for the future, which is the goal of any disagreement. If they say, "I didn't mean it," say, "You didn't mean it, but the result was that I felt this way. So in the future, please do XYZ."

12. Don't beat yourself up that you had a fight.

Everyone wants a partner who's invested — and fighting can be a sign that you're both still working at the relationship (a positive thing!). Puhn says she knows a couple is doomed when they say, "We used to fight a lot, but now we raise our hands and walk out." It's not that they don't disagree on things. "It means they're letting the relationship go, which is what happens before they leave or find an affair," Puhn says. So feel good that you both still care enough to get to the bottom of your issues. Elissa Sanci Elissa Sanci is an Associate Staff Writer at the product review site Wirecutter.com and a former editorial assistant at Woman’s Day.

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