Who are the most likely to be codependent?

Like narcissism, codependency is one of those popular psychology buzzwords that's made its way into our common vernacular. ... Codependency is most common in families with: mental health conditions. medical disability. generational trauma.

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If being everyone’s go-to person means your needs often take a back seat, you may want to learn more about codependency. Are you codependent? To answer this, you may want to first understand what a codependent trait is. It’s a Friday. You’re grappling with the feeling that you didn’t do enough at work this week, even though you’re burned out. Then, at home, you spend most of your weekend attending to the needs of your partner, kids, or family. Come to think of it, you can’t remember the last time you thought about your own wants or desires. More than anything, you’re exhausted, and wishing for some time and space to call your very own. Is this a natural response to a busy life or could it be a result of codependent traits? Signs of codependency can be hard to spot, but once you do, it may lead to actionable steps toward putting yourself first again. What is codependency? Like narcissism, codependency is one of those popular psychology buzzwords that’s made its way into our common vernacular. In the simplest terms, codependency refers to a persistent pattern of behavior that includes suppressing your own needs in order to meet the needs of others. The term “codependency” was once reserved for partners of those living with a substance use disorder, but the definition has since expanded to include all kinds of relationships. Codependency is most common in families with: mental health conditions

medical disability

generational trauma It’s not a formal diagnosis in the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders, 5th ed. (DSM-5). Instead, it’s more of a group of traits and a relational style. “It is when compassion turns to a compulsion to care for others,” says Mary Joye, a licensed mental health counselor in Winter Haven, Florida. “It feels as if you are living someone else’s life for them. You give up your own desires and needs to keep others happy.” Joye, who is about to release a book on codependency, explains that “there’s a lot of neuroscience to this because you get oxytocin and dopamine from helping others.” Codependency exists on a spectrum, says Joye, from living your life around what others need and want, to trying to control the emotions and behaviors of those around you. Is codependency the same as people-pleasing? You can have people-pleasing tendencies and still not be codependent. “All codependent people are people pleasers, but not all people pleasers are codependent,” says Kate Engler, a licensed marriage and family therapist in Skokie, Illinois. The two relational styles have many similar traits, such as the desire to help, feelings of resentment about always having to show up, and difficulties with setting boundaries. But codependency is more extreme, says Engler. If you’re codependent, the person on the other end of the connection is dependent on you for getting their needs met, too. “Neither of you can function without the other,” she says. Codependency vs. attachment styles: Is there a link? Codependency may have a developmental tie-in. For example, if you grew up in a home with a stressful or traumatic dynamic, perhaps you didn’t have the freedom or authority to not be codependent — it helped you survive. As a result, you may have developed an anxious attachment style, putting the needs of others persistently above your own in order to stay safe and avoid being abandoned, punished, or neglected. “Children will do anything to keep their environment predictable so they feel secure, even if that means other aspects of emotional and identity development become casualties,” says De Marco.

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What does codependency feel like? In a word: mixed. “When you are grappling with codependency, there can be moments of feeling wonderful — when there is a sense that you are helping or saving someone you care about,” says Engler. “However, those are few and far between. There is usually a significant amount of fear because it feels like you, alone, are solely responsible for another person’s well-being.” You may also feel: anxious

exhausted

depleted

insecure

out of control

overwhelmed

resentful

taken advantage of At times, you may feel like you’ve lost yourself. As a result, codependency can lead to feelings of anxiety and depression, since your needs have taken a back seat. What are codependent traits? Since codependency is not a mental health condition or diagnosis but is instead a behavioral style, there are a few personality traits that are often associated with it. These include: Cognitive traits difficulty differentiating between your opinions and other people’s

trouble identifying and expressing your needs

taking on the desires of those around you as your own Emotional traits having difficulty saying “no” to other people’s requests

fear of not being accepted, loved, or supported

feelings of inadequacy

low self-esteem Behavioral traits assuming more responsibilities than you can handle

doing things for others out of fear or being accepted

enduring connections that may harm you to avoid being lonely

getting caught up in other people’s matters

adding pressure to yourself to support others

not setting boundaries to how much you share with others

seeking approval or validation

“rescuing” people from their challenges, even when not asked to

Signs of codependency Signs of codependency can show up in multiple areas of your life, like at home or in the office. These are a few examples: Family relationships being on-call for everyone 24-7

completing homework for your child

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giving your sibling money that you need for rent

dropping everything for your hostile, aging parent Work relationships saying yes to every assignment from your boss

doing favors for your co-worker, even though you’re slammed

regularly picking up the slack on group projects Romantic relationships cutting off friends who don’t “get” your girlfriend

changing your schedule around your partner’s needs

habitually skimping on sleep to wait up for your boyfriend

making excuses for your spouse’s angry outburst while drinking

having the constant need to be seen like a hero or savior by your partner Codependency vs. domestic violence People in abusive relationships are not automatically codependent — that is a myth. Coercive control, over the long haul, can lead someone to engage and stay in relationships and behaviors that may result in harm for themselves and others. On a similar note, not all people with codependent behaviors are in abusive relationships. Codependency exists on a spectrum. Codependency, trauma, and cultural factors The available definitions of codependency don’t always account for survival-based social behavior. You may have developed codependent traits when you experienced a traumatic event. Depending on culture and customs, these could also be associated with a traditionally socialized, feminine role focused on caretaking, says Lauren De Marco, a licensed clinical social worker, and psychotherapist in Bel Air, Maryland. “Codependency may also be seen among marginalized groups as a result of systemically unmet needs that naturally reinforce pervasive patterns of mental illness, substance abuse, neglect, abuse, and financial hardship,” says De Marco. “We need to be mindful of our cultural lens, so as to not inadvertently create a gaslighting effect on marginalized and non-dominant groups.”

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